Ms. Kionna Perry kicked off the month and week by hosting Monday’s call on the topic, “Love Thy Self.” Ms. Perry shared a very familiar old saying, “kill them with kindness.” This saying goes a long way as it covers so many areas — work, personal, and new customers. This also applies to how I treat myself. We are all works of progress in our self-development journey. Your challenges will make you grow and develop your self-love! Her personal testimony included — comparison with others; questioning all of her decisions; letting guilt get the best of her; staying in relationships too long; and worrying about what others thought of her. Don’t have sabotaging thoughts, learn how to value yourself. Ms. Perry learned how to “be kind” to herself and accept everything about herself with kindness, love, and compassion. Ms. Perry embraced her flaws and learned that the moments she experienced didn’t define her. You might have to walk some roads alone but that is okay! Here are some suggestions to kill those sabotaging and self-critical thoughts: 1) Make a list of all the positive qualities and capabilities about yourself. Magnify your strengths and not your flaws, 2) Forgive yourself; 3) Grow from every meaningful experience; 4) Appreciate & value yourself; 5) Set boundaries & learn to say no when saying yes doesn’t serve you well 6) Set goals for yourself. Go past the negative committee in your mind; 7) Take good care of yourself and treat yourself special; 8) Be proud and admire yourself. Without sustaining you, there is no chance of sustaining a fulfilled life!
Ms. Kanika Gilmore hosted the call on Wednesday and started off with some very transparent moments about a time when she didn’t love or care for herself. Ms. Gilmore shared about her mother’s battle with drugs and how this impacted her relationship with her sisters. This even impacted her relationship with her father. She would question herself and why no one loved her? Ms. Gilmore looked herself in the mirror and made a declaration that she would love herself. She also imparted that she wanted the type of love that God has for us! She encouraged the Women’s Inspiration Circle to dwell on the 1 Corinthians 13 love on today which is the God kind of love! You will see the amazing God love has for you. Loving yourself is not selfish. If you don’t have this love for yourself then how can you give it out to others? When you love yourself this means you want the best for you. Remember God’s thoughts of us are better than our thoughts. God loves you because he loves you (repeat this to yourself because he loves you, because he loves you). Ms. Gilmore shared from the book, “Love Out Loud” by Joyce Meyer about how we should desire peaceful relationships with people. Love yourself in a balanced way. If God loves you so much surely you can learn to love yourself. Take that step of faith to say that you love yourself. Be that confident person and enjoy yourself more. What a profound thought…getting along with yourself is important because you spend more time with yourself than anyone else!
The Women’s Inspiration Circle call on Friday was hosted by Ms. Ruby Jackson. She recalled the song, “I’m Feeling Myself” by Beyonce and how this resonated with her! Ms. Jackson shared from Ms. Iyanla Vanzant’s, “Acts of Faith” on a self-love devotion. When you don’t feel good about yourself, then it’s hard to feel good about anything or anyone. Self-hate is a vicious cycle, believe that you are worth love…you are a loveable being! Do you know who you are becoming in life? You are amazing and beautiful. Begin this journey of self-love. Ms. Jackson shared her story about dropping out of college, the verbal abuse that she experienced in high school, and her divorce. Additionally, this transparent moment involved her moving around a lot and thinking that getting away would help. However, she recognized it wasn’t her world but the view of her world. Ms. Jackson took a moment to describe a story when someone told her, “I love the shape of your nose.” Where this person saw beauty she saw flaws. The moral of her story is that her vision was dirty but she changed her lens. Given her love of poetry, she seized this opportunity to begin writing about how she loved herself. Additionally, Ms. Jackson took the time to change things and started telling herself a new story which was inspired by the audio recording, “Act Like You Know the Truth” by Iyanla Vanzant. Accept the reality of what is! You should take your rightful place. Love being with all of you. Your actions should be self-supporting. You are love!
I am love
God is love
God lives in me
The love of God surrounds me
The love of God engulfs me.
My actions are self-loving and self-supporting
I love and accept myself
If you missed any of the calls this week or you’re interested in recapping some great inspiration, feel free to playback the calls at your convenience! Playback number: 605-477-3099 Access code: 1063557# Reference numbers: Monday- 136, Wed-137, Fri-138