What is reflecting? Taking the time to think deeply or carefully about something. To think about or give thought to, give consideration to, mull over, contemplate or meditate over. All things we encounter in life can be a teaching and learning moment. Ms. Kionna Perry hosted Monday’s call and posed this question and definition to the group. Reflection is a key part of our learning experience. It allows us to know ourselves and come to terms with what an experience actually means. When we reflect, we should always start with ourselves so that we have more self-knowledge. When we do this, we gain and are able to 1) accomplish more; 2) be more productive in the workplace; 3) become a better leader; 4) build self-confidence; 5) build better relationships and; 6) help us grow. We should reflect on past performances and compete with our own personal best record. Ms. Perry challenged the group to envision ourselves as a top performer in business or area of expertise. She challenged the group to go back and reflect on the topics from the blog. When you take this time, you will find the silver lining. You owe it to yourself! Finally, Ms. Perry shared some reflections that included some questions from each facet of life and giving honest answers regarding the material, spiritual, physical and social aspects of life.
Ms. Ruby Jackson hosted Wednesday’s call and shared with about using other experiences to reflect. She shared from Monday’s call that reflection is the tool to unearth lessons and it enables us to come into a place where we know ourselves and gain self-knowledge. If we aren’t good to ourselves then we can’t be good to other people. By three methods we may learn wisdom. First by reflection, the second by imitation and third by experience which is the most bitter. Self-reflection is one of the ways to obtain clarity and you gain an immense amount of power. There is power in clarity. It is important to get into the right state or environment, find out what is the best time for you, and ask the right questions which help to answer any inner conflicts that you might have. Ms. Jackson shared about having more how questions which are more solution and action oriented versus why questions where you simply get a confirmation of why you can’t do something. Ms. Jackson also shared her personal story about coaching athletes and how she was able to teach on self-reflection.
The final Women’s Inspiration Circle call before the break was hosted by Ms. Tiffany Prince. She started the call off with a quote by Iyanla Vanzant, “everything that happens to you, is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We can’t out perform our level of self-esteem. We can’t draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.” Every moment of your reality is a reflection. You get credit for how the person that lives with you speaks to you and how they treat you. Learning to pause allows growth to catch up with you. Ms. Prince shared with the group on how you can reflect with intention and that this includes: 1) what was the best thing that happened; 2) what would I want to repeat; 3) what do I want the lesson or growth process to be; 4) what do I want to take away from this experience; 5) what would I like to enhance. We get the credit or blame for our own reality. We have so many checkpoints during the day and we give off energy. If you are getting a reality that you don’t want, then think about the reflection and how you feel about yourself. Either you are bringing this to them or you feel this way about yourself. Ms. Prince encouraged the group to change their reality. Use your reflection or whatever it is to change the reality. This can also be done when interacting with others but you have to be clear on one thing you like or love about the person 2) focus on only that and; 3) wait for a change in reality. Ms. Prince also challenged the group to take some quiet time and sit in your reflection chair during this recess.